What Does Staying in the Present Mean?

I was watching the Divergent series and like most people, I found myself crushing big time on Tobias Eaton (Theo James).

Obviously, like most people, I ventured on the search to find his social media account so that I could follow him and get dreamy.




To my mild surprise, I found that Theo James did not have any social media account.
Obviously, I grew curious. :3 Again, I went on my search to find as to why he didn't have a social media account like many celebrities and high profile personalities. And I found why! :D

I was not disappointed. The following is what I found and liked, and I learned something good from what Theo James said here:

Theo James is a man of mystery.

Though his Insurgent co-stars Shailene Woodley and Ansel Elgort use social media to varying degrees, the 30-year-old actor puts a premium on his privacy. "I'm glad there's not much information," he says.

James avoids the Hollywood scene, and unlike Woodley, he's not the type to speak candidly about his passions in the press. "I don't think I'd want to share those elements of my private life," James admits.

Needless to say, as far as Twitter and Instagram are concerned, James isn't on board.

"I don't have it and I never will. Other actors I know are really good at it and they rock and roll it, but it's not for me. If I post a picture of us having a drink now and get loads of views or comments and stuff, then suddenly you're quite exposed and you're in a world of work," he tells Flaunt. "I just like being present."

Embracing the moment is easier said than done, but James does his best to limit his distractions. "I think people struggle with that now, being present in a time and place. There's a lot of talk about mindfulness now and that's about the ability to be present and not constantly affected by erroneous sources around you—that stimulus through a computer or through worries," James says. "It's about being fully present."

Being unplugged has helped James gain clarity in all aspects of his life.

Though it might be tempting to Google himself, the actor says, "Most of the information is completely useless and it's totally mind numbing, because it doesn't actually add anything to your sense of self. And interacting singularly with an interface—there's a limited amount of learning that can be experienced."

What's distracting James these days?

"I've been wondering that...because I have been really like 'I need to shift.' I do feel distracted," he says. "I don't know about you but I am just kind of consciously, recently just trying to f--king look at less."

Still, James admits he's looked at things about himself in the past. "Everyone says it is the cardinal sin, but you inevitably do it by accident all the time, or you may see it on a newsstand or whatever. You end up forming a perception of yourself based on other people's opinions; a perception outside your own self, which is a f--king mind f--k because you start perceiving yourself as something that you aren't," he says. To prevent those perceptions from shaping reality, he advises, "Read more. Read every time you go to bed, read in the day—because at least reading a book, you can't be distracted by anything else."

Read it here: http://www.eonline.com/news/626657/theo-james-explains-why-he-doesn-t-use-social-media

Accepting Thy Weaknesses? I Think I get It Now.

When I was a wee leetul baby, and I would be faced with situations that were tough, I'd find myself wondering what exactly does it mean when we say that accepting the circumstances around you, circumstances that you can't change makes it easier.

But now I am happy, relieved rather, that I have understood this concept to some extent:

Accepting (thy weaknesses) means knowing that you have all these weaknesses within you and when someone points those weaknesses out, either in person or in front of a audience, you don't feel bad about them because you have already come to terms with it, made peace with them as it is said.

You have told yourself that:
"I think it is time I face what my weakness is. I cannot take bad criticism well and I feel sulky for days on end thinking about those demoralising remarks."

Lets say someone points that out to you, they tell you: "You are unable to take bad criticism well, aren't you?"



And instead of getting defensive and saying rather indignantly, "Noo. I can take all kinds of criticism well and I just brush it off as if its nothing," and then adding a tangible quote to support your claim, "no one can hurt me without my permission," and then shooting a proud little smile towards the person in conversation with you (and at the same time feeling hurt because somebody caught you getting deflated over some negative remarks.)

Say: "Yes, that hurt me a little bit and I kinda know that these remarks put me in a bad place, but oh well, all I can do right now is try again and do my best,' this time shooting a humble little smile towards the person in conversation with you.

ok i know this isnt exactly a humble smile but i think u get it :P

I have found that one of the most difficult things that human beings face in their short time here on earth is coming face to face with their weaknesses. It is undoubtedly difficult to accept that one has weakness/weaknesses. Because, quite simply, good things are appreciated. Bad things, not so much. 'Having weakness' is considered a bad thing. And come to think about it, its not really bad. It is an indicator to your present self, indicating exactly where one stands. This indicator is a "pusher". And I don't believe that it is bad.

Having weaknesses is not a bad thing.

It is part of your entire existence. It is there to push you until you overcome it and become your beautiful self.